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Saturday, April 27, 2013

Disappoint me Lord


‘Mum, there’s something I would like to speak with you and dad about’. Those were the words of my first son as he asked if we could please connect with him via Skype video call. I knew it was serious enough from his tone of voice, and as we waited on the appointed time for the Skype call, I sent a silent prayer of thanks to God for the fact that whatever it was had come up while we were in transit to visit with him; and more than this, I thanked God for the relationship He has helped us build with our children such that they see their dad and I as their confidants, their primary champions, their safe spaces. Not an easy feat for many parents with teenage children, but the Lord is our source and there is nothing He cannot do as long as we open our mouths to speak the things we believe for in our lives and in the lives of our children, including the relationships and future we desire to have with and for them.

As we spoke later that evening, he shared his extreme disappointment regarding the fact that he had not been selected as a Prefect at school. He had desired this from the moment he entered the school, and he had worked as hard as he could to meet the set criteria to be made a school Prefect. Indeed, he did make and maintain the criteria.....but, life happened! Based on the experiences of the past two years, the school committee revised the criteria for selection of Prefects, and he lost out on a one-point technicality. How unfair! What a blow! He shared his hurt and frustrations, telling us steps he had taken to speak with the various authorities in the School selection committee to know why the last minute changes had been put in place. He wasn’t sure he could understand that every member of the committee told him he was their top choice, save for this one technicality which he now didn’t meet. No, it just did not make that kind of sense to him.

As is our way, we said to him that we needed to speak with the head of the school committee to understand their angle. Hurt as our son was, there are always two sides to every situation and we needed to be clear on both sides before we could form opinions or take action if required - especially also since he was not the only candidate affected. As the principal explained to us the rationale behind the additions to the selection criteria, it became clear that the focus of the school was what was in the best interest of the students in the first place. They had taken a longer-term view based on past experiences and we had to agree that their position made sense, disappointed though our son (and ourselves) might be.

He joined us last night for a weekend visit and we then had time to sit down and share perspectives on the issue. As we explained the position the school had adopted, we had said to him that if the Lord had it planned for him to make Prefect, then no machinations of man – no matter how last minute, would have stood in the way of the purpose of God for his life. We serve a God Who has said clearly that nothing is too hard for Him. We also then began to share with him some disappointments that we had had in our own lives and business, which over time had turned out to be major blessings in disguise. Example after the other poured out from both his father and I, as the Holy Spirit brought to our remembrance even those experiences that we hadn’t thought about in years. We assured him that the One Who says He holds our lives in the palm of His hands; the One Whose says His plans for us are of good and not of evil; the One Who causes us to prosper; He is the same One Who will order his steps into a life of purpose and destiny.

We reminded him of something we have spoken severally to our children – the fact that life happens! There is an unpredictability element that not one of us is in control of. When life happens though, as children of the Living God, the only way to respond is to look to our source and trust that God has something better ahead. We spoke extensively and by the end of the evening, our son had clearly come back to a place of peace, to the glory of God. All through the night though, I found myself thinking over those things in my life which had played out at the time as disappointments, but which today I can clearly thank God for. I realized sis, that the things I would have wished I could go back and change, are those things which I strove to do in my own strength and which when they played themselves out, eventually added no real value to my life. But those things which the Lord did not allow to be? Those things that I yielded to the will of God even though they disappointed, hurt and confused me? Sis, those are the things that I now see clearly that the Lord held back from me because He knew the end from the beginning and knew the end was not good. He knew with a certainty, the better plans that He had ahead of me and kept those things away from me. Thank You Jesus!  

By the grace of God, you and I still have many more years to live out here on the earth. If we are to live out the life of abundance that the Lord has planned for us; if indeed our latter days are to continue to be greater than our former; then sis, you and I need to cry unto God and ask Him to continue to disappoint us in those things that He knows for certain will lead us into regret. Yes sis, we need to plead with God not to ever leave us to our own devices regardless of how painful this exercise might be in the short term. We need God to disappoint those of our intentions and aspirations that have neither earthly nor eternal value. He is a God who disappoints the devices of the crafty such that their hands cannot perform their enterprise, is He not? Well sis, truth is that sometimes our own devices and machinations add up to a craftiness towards ourselves…if we only but knew it then. At those times sis, we surely need God to disappoint our efforts. We need God to order our steps aright sis. If He is to do this, then you and I need to be ready for any breaking, shaking, or moving around that God needs to do to ensure we are always fully in His will.

Sis, you and I have to have the constant conviction that the Lord is good, and all He does is good for us. If we do, then we will be constantly in a place of expectation when things don’t go the way we had planned. If we do, then beyond out initial disappointments, we will quickly move into a place of ‘Halleluyah!’ and praise for the better things which we are convinced the Lord will bring our way. In this place of expectation, God sees our total trust and reliance on Him, and lovingly smiles down and opens the windows of heaven wider still over us. In the end, we will surely look back and say ‘Thank You Lord for the blessing of that disappointment’. 


Regardless of how life plays out sis, you and I will make it in the end. The greater One is working all things out for our good. I believe this with all that is in me. I have seen this play out time and again in my life. So shall it be in your life sis. At the end of every disappointment, the Lord will ensure that your latter is so much greater than your past. So shall it be, in Jesus name.

Be blessed sis….. for you surely are!

  


2 comments:

  1. I'm beginning to panic, that people will think, doesn't this person ever have anything else to say :)

    All I can say about this week's post is 'wow'. There's just so much truth contained in it. It's a message that most of us are probably familiar with in one way or another, but really, this is real new wine.

    I am really blessed by this blog and I pray many more come to be blessed by it too.

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  2. It is a food for thought for everyone. Little time devoted for the young ones in re-assuring and clearing their doubts goes a long way in building their trust in God and their Self-confidence.

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WORD FOR THE WEEK

LUKE 1:

34“-How can this be, Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?” 35The angel replied, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the Holy One to be born will be called the Son of God

JEREMIAH 2:

5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.

6 Then said I, Ah, Lord God! Behold, I cannot speak, for I am only a youth. 7 But the Lord said to me, Say not, I am only a youth; for you shall go to all to whom I shall send you, and whatever I command you, you shall speak.

8 Be not afraid of them [their faces], for I am with you to deliver you, says the Lord. 9 Then the Lord put forth His hand and touched my mouth. And the Lord said to me, Behold, I have put My words in your mouth. 10 See, I have this day appointed you to the oversight of the nations and of the kingdoms to root out and pull down, to destroy and to overthrow, to build and to plant.

1st CORINTHIANS 1:

25 [This is] because the foolish thing [that has its source in] God is wiser than men, and the weak thing [that springs] from God is stronger than men. 26 For [simply] consider your own call, brethren; not many [of you were considered to be] wise according to human estimates and standards, not many influential and powerful, not many of high and noble birth. 27 [No] for God selected (deliberately chose) what in the world is foolish to put the wise to shame, and what the world calls weak to put the strong to shame. 28 And God also selected (deliberately chose) what in the world is lowborn and insignificant and branded and treated with contempt, even the things that are nothing, that He might depose and bring to nothing the things that are,

Colossians 1:

28 Him we preach and proclaim, warning and admonishing everyone and instructing everyone in all wisdom (comprehensive insight into the ways and purposes of God), that we may present every person mature (full-grown, fully initiated, complete, and perfect) in Christ (the Anointed One).

29 For this I labor [[z]unto weariness], striving with all the superhuman energy which He so mightily enkindles and works within me.